From: Calgary Area of Alberta
You all must be just reeling like being hit by a freight train that wasn't even on the tracks.... I am still reeling from the news - when I first saw the picture on facebook I was confused... mind saying looks like a birthday party but gut saying I DONT THINK SO - I still can not believe this... he looks so healthy in the picture a poster child really....
I too am concerned for your boys and yes the most vulnerable is the `13 year old and the old long since buried 13 year old self would be crying I don't care who everyone else in the group lost this is my dad...... unless you have walked in those shoes or your shoes no one can even imagine - with 2 years to prepare myself with late husbands cancer and yes I did prepare in my own mind when the time came I just stood with some of our friends from the office well the girls and we just stared in amazement - one minute he was drinking juice and the next GONE that in itself was not what I expected...that very morning the hospital staff had tried to convince me to take him home. So take your time and perhaps take the 13 year old out with you to a quiet place where you can both talk about what you are feeling - bring a box of Kleenex... and water... when and if the tears flow it is very dehydrating... so does all that breathing through the mouth.
Expect to be numb - you will look back next year and wont remember most of this time or how you got through it.
Shirley - Mom to Dickens (PuppyWuppy now known as Dicky Wicky)and Doyle (baby) and Baxter, Bella, Pistol, Cowboy, ChiChi at Rainbow Bridge
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